I encountered two questions related to integrity, today. I was busy this afternoon while Ika sneaked into my office. After I was done with my work, she asked me, “Miss Sentha, what is the difference between a true enemy and a false friend?” This is the one thing I like in Ika. The curiosity. She has the curiosity which I seldom see here. I explained. Again she asked me, “Which is better?” “Of course, a true enemy”. Then we were discussing for a while, and left for another meeting.
After school, I came home. The moment I entered the house, Grace stopped me with a question. “Sentha, how do you know if people are sincere to you?” I paused, while wondering few things. Ika’s question flashed my mind. I replied, “When you don’t mean what you say in other words when your actions don’t reflect your words”. “Anything?” I asked. As a reply, “That’s why I don’t make friendship with people easily,” I knew something was not right. I didn’t ask her any more.
Though there seems to be no direct relation in the two questions, somehow I find there is an invisible thread connecting these two. In both cases there might be a hidden hurt or inexplicable bad experience. Obviously there was a disappointment in Grace’s expression.
Last month I watched ‘The Ramen Girl’ on the Star Movies. It’s about an American girl trying to live in Japan, embracing Japanese culture. Whenever she says I need this for myself, that for myself, unable to tolerate her "self centeredness" at one point, the master of the restaurant asked her sarcastically, “myself, myself, myself’?
We are living in the world in which SELF prevails everything. Time for myself, space for myself, money for myself, life for myself. How will your life be complete only with yourself?
We are ready to do anything in order to satisfy the self, forgetting the people around us, their words, their deeds, their compromises and sacrifices. And nothing matters, when only yourself matters.
What do you expect?
You either have to live with them or ignore them.
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